Eddie Money (Edward Joseph Mahoney Mar.21,1949 – Sept.13,2019)

   Eddie Money passed away today.  He was always one of my favourite entertainers.  Top 5 for sure.  I saw him a few times over the years.  Often by myself.  One of those... 'no one wants to go? ... fine, I have no problem going by myself'.  In the fall of 1986 he played The Copa in Toronto.  No one was interested.  I left work, went to the show, slept on a park bench, and went back to work.  No regrets.  I always thought   Eddie put on a heck of a show.

   I guess my favourite Eddie Money memory is from back in 2002.  I drove to Kingsport Tennessee to see him.  I got there, and the guy at the gate said "Eddie Money didn't show up, sorry."  Eddie was on the bill with 38 Special.  So, it's ended up being an extra long 38 Special concert.  Good show, but not Eddie.

   I was extremely disappointed.  Still in Tennessee, the next day I stopped in to the local library (2002 was long before smart phones were so commonplace) and hopped on one of their computers.  After some creative Googling, I found the email address for Eddie's manager.  I wrote him a sort of angry letter, asking why Eddie was a no-show, as no information was giving at the concert venue other than he just didn't show up.


   Eddie's manager forwarded my email to Eddie himself and I got the following reply.

From: Eddie Money 
To: Dave 
Sent: Saturday, July 27, 2002, 10:48:57 AM EDT
Subject: Re: Eddie on tour

Hey Dave,

Sorry you drove so far to find out the show was canceled.  My mother passed away.  The tour is going to continue, but under the circumstances, I did have to cancel a few shows.  We are playing in Buffalo tonight, hope you can make it; I'd love to meet such a dedicated fan!  I sure wish we got to play in Canada a little more often.  


Keep Shakin'
Eddie Money


   His mom passed away?  Well, that's why he didn't show.   I felt like an idiot.  I was embarrassed that I had written that angry email.  Lessen learned.  Don't assume what's going on when the artist doesn't show up for a gig.

   So, I drove to Buffalo for the show.  It was an outdoor event on the street.   At the end of the soundcheck I walked up to the stage area and yelled, Eddie!  I'm the guy from the email!.   He pointed at me and said.  "You!  Get over here!"  Then he asked security to let me through.

   I apologized profusely for the email.  He laughed it off; saying there was no way I could have known.  We chatted for awhile, he signed my t-shirt, and gave me a signed cd, and I went back to my place at the front of the stage.  Great show as always!

   All his albums have been in my regular rotation.  Never stopped digging his music.  To me, he was one of the greats.

Rest in Peace Eddie Money.

Emotional Pain Part #2

So, my blog post earlier this year (Emotional Pain Part #1) dealt with my wife and I kinda being screwed over by Toronto's Children's Aid Society back in 2010 with regards to adopting a child.

Fast forward to March of 2017... 

My wife and I were out at a legion singing karaoke and we bump into an acquaintance we hadn’t seen in many years.   While chatting and catching up she asked if we ever adopted.  She mentions she remembers us wanting to adopt a child back in the day.  We tell her that it didn’t happen, and she asks if we’re still interested in adoption; because she knows of a 10 year old girl that needs help.  My wife and I go home and discuss…

Well, our life has changed a bit since we last tried. Jobs and finances are stable enough, we have the space, and we still have that desire to help a child in need.  After much discussion, we decide to find out a little more about this 10 year old girl.

We meet up again a couple more times with this acquaintance from years gone by, and get more details on this girl.   The acquaintance asks us if we’d like to meet the girl.  We decide, yes.  Turns out the girl has weekend time with her brother on Saturdays and they go to Chuck E Cheese.  We were told to head over that Saturday and she’ll be with a social worker who can introduce us. 

We go.  Everything works out as planned.  We meet the girl.  Vanessa.  What a delight!  We watch the girl interact with the other children, and she’s so friendly and polite.  She ends up coming over and the social worker introduces us.  She sits down with us and starts digging right into our pizza.  We have laughs write away.  I mean instantly.  I had my phone out and she saw the Snapchat app, she asked about it, and I told her I honestly don’t know how to use it.  She said she’d show me and grabbed my phone.  I still have those Snapchat pictures and videos on my phone. 

We ended going to Chuck E Cheese a couple more times.  Meeting with this acquaintance afterwards for a little more in-depth discussion.   My wife and I agreed that we had lots to offer this girl and wanted to proceed with the adoption process. 

Turns out, this girl had been taken from her home by the Children’s Aid Society for a couple of reasons, and was in the process of becoming what they call a “crown ward”.  She was currently living with a foster family and this lady acquaintance was trying to help Vanessa find a ‘forever home’ before she became a crown ward. 

During one of our meetings with this lady acquaintance, while she was talking to my wife, I starting questioning all this in my head.  Something just didn’t add up.    Then it dawned on me… This lady, this acquaintance is Vanessa’s mother!  

We confronted her, and indeed that was the case.  CAS took her daughter away and was granted ‘no access’.  That complicated things a little, but nothing we thought we couldn’t handle.

‘In a nutshell’ … this lady had lost her child to CAS and wanted to keep tabs on her.  Once the child became of crown ward, Vanessa would be lost in the system.  If Vanessa was adopted by us, she’d know where she is.

Still, we decided to proceed, with caution.  Bottom line was there still was a girl that needed help and we were in a position to help her. 

We had a lawyer draft a letter of our intentions to the Children’s Aid Society.   Since we knew this lady, there was a possibility of a bit of fast tracking through their kith/kinship program. 

CAS contacted us, and we were assigned a case worker.  Our case worker was awesome.  Friendly, helpful and we really felt she ‘had our backs’ on this.  Over a few meetings with our case worker, more information was shared.  The reasons were a little more serious as to why Vanessa was taken from her home.  It had already been to court and the judge determined that Vanessa should be kept far away from her mother, indefinitely.   Our worker also agreed that we were ideal candidates to adopt this girl.  We passed the home inspection easily.  We had to apply for police background checks.  No problem.  The more we talked with our worker, the more we were determined this girl needs help and we were the ones that were going to help her. 

We asked to meet with Vanessa’s CAS worker.  That request got put on the back burner as Vanessa was changing social workers. 

We met up a couple more times with Vanessa, even had her visit our home briefly.  She didn’t know at the time, we wanted to adopt her.  It wasn’t for us to tell her.  Her worker would ease her into that situation at the appropriate time. 

Things slowed down quite a bit at the end of April, when my wife and I went on vacation.  We met up with our CAS rep when we got back.

We felt it odd that we still hadn’t met with Vanessa’s work yet.  Our CAS rep was still trying to get that meeting for us.   Turns out Vanessa’s case worker and the ‘higher ups’ and Children’s Aid were slowing down the process on purpose.  There were afraid that because we knew Vanessa’s mother, we couldn’t protect her appropriately.  We assured them that wasn’t the case.  If CAS gives the condition not to give the mother access, then that’s what we do.  We would play by whatever rules they laid out.  If the mother shows up causing trouble, the police get called and the take her away.  We were confident we could handle it, but CAS kept dragging it out and slowing things down.   

In the meantime, we were invited to Vanessa’s birthday and the home of her brother.  My wife had to work, so I went alone.  She remembered me and we had fun playing Pokemon Go and Minecraft.  I was starting to get that rapport with her that I wanted. 

At the same visit, this social worker shows up with all kinds of gifts for Vanessa.  Turns out, all these gifts were from her mother.  The social worker would pass the gift to Vanessa and say something like “This is from your old teacher!”  Or this is from Bobby down the street”.  But it was all bullshit.  When Vanessa’s worker found out the mother was passing gifts along through this social worker, CAS panicked and said no more visits by anyone.  Even though we had nothing to do with these fake gifs, we got shut out.

So, we have our CAS rep go back and try to explain we didn’t know about these fake gifts and her mother’s manipulation.  She believed us; but the ‘higher ups’ at CAS wouldn’t listen.

So, we got shut out, and it was all put on hold.  For months.  We’d lost all momentum and traction we had.  The rapport was gone. 

Mid-December 2017, we get a call from our rep saying it’s over.  CAS has decided not to move forward with us adopting Vanessa.  We had a pretty sad Christmas that year.  Actually, the saddest ever.  We were told earlier that we’d have Vanessa by then, so we were looking forward Christmas with her.  My wife’s mother passed away that fall.  So, Christmas that year had neither of those special people we thought we’d celebrate with. 

But wait, there’s more…

Mid-January, we get a call from our CAS rep!   Vanessa’s case worker wants to meet with us!  Well, we find the sudden turnabout as weird, but we’ll take it!

We met with our CAS worker, Vanessa's worker, the foster father and his worker. We met for an hour and made a plan that everyone loved.  So, we started things up again!  The foster family were going to have us over.  Everyone was of the plan that if the foster family had us over and we did some fun activity, maybe she'd warm up to us again and we’d get that important rapport back that we had. 

  3 weeks went by, and we never heard from them.  We reached out to our rep and called for a meeting with her. 

  At the meeting, our case worker said Vanessa’s worker and the foster family were having trouble with Vanessa.  Every time they mention adoption, or us (she calls us the 'Parrot People' because the time she was at our home and met our parrot Wizard) she’d go into her room and close the door.  She won't even discuss it with anyone.  And it's not us.  It's the prospect of her leaving the safety of where she is.  They're trying to force it, and it's just making it worse.   She gets her defenses up and won’t listen.  So, we decided we should tell everyone to stop pressuring her into something she's not interested.  It wouldn't be fun to have a 12 year old at our home that truly doesn't want to be there.  Then you get into more behavior problems and possibly runaway type stuff.

  So, again it started, and again it's over.

  If the 'higher-ups' at Children's Aid hadn't gotten ‘scared’ that summer and shut us down, we could have continued with the momentum we had with certainly a different outcome.  They were afraid that us knowing the actual biological mother would complicate things. Only recently they realized it really had nothing to do with everyone's plan of care for Vanessa.  By that time, we'd already lost her.

I still think about her often and wonder how me and my awesome wife would have been able to give her a home and family.

#torontoCAS 

PainPals unite?! (part 3 / update)

  Well, that relief previously discussed was short lived.  Turns out the Gabapentin has some wacky side effects.  Blurred vision, Mood swings, quick to anger, uncoorindation, dizzy spells, low energy, memory loss, increased backpain, depression & suicidal thoughts among them.  All of these I have experienced over teh last few months.

  There are two things I've noticed, over and above that list that have changed in me from this medication.  The first being that I've lost the ability to multitask.  Gone.  And it's more extreme than that.  I can't even hear 2 sounds at once.  I have to mute the tv if Wifey is talking to me (I can't really mute her.)  That's tough only being able to process one sound at a time.

  The other change that's significant is writing.  I've always prided myself with extremely accurate spelling and grammar.  That's gone too.  Friends used to give me their resume to proof read and correct.  Even an executive of a multi-billion dollar company had me check and correct their resume.  Looks like that talent is gone too.

  Take this blog post, for example.  I can't write this directly in the blog because it's so full of errors.  I need to write in in a document and go over it at least 3 times to try to catch all the mistakes before posting.

  Even though I do to those cross checks, errors still get through.  I do this now for everything I write.  Work & personal emails, Facebook posts; everything I type needs to be checked and checked again.

  Last month, while posting for Jack Russell's Great White Facebook page, I wrote "Grand Fuck Railroad", instead of "Grand Funk Railroad".  It passed my checks and I posted it.  The next day, a buddy pointed it out to me and I was horrified.  I corrected it, but the post had already been seen by thousands of people across the world.

  The doctors sent me to a specialist that deals specifically with side effects of Gabapetin, who tells me all these side effects are common and normal.

  He recommended me change the timing of the dosage.  I did, and it made teh pain worse.  I tried that for a month and the pain got worse.  On a recent visit to that same doctor  he said 'Ok, that experiment failed, you can go back to the previous dosage and timing'.   Which I've done, but the pain is still there.    So, now I'm back where I was with the pain, and have these crazy side effects.

  Discussing this with my family doctor, she says it's about balance.  It's about the trade off.  Do I want the pain, or do I want to go crazy?

  Looks like it's both for now.

Emotional Pain Part #1

   Last blog post was about physical pain.  The more I thought about it, the more I wanted to blog about emotional pain.

   So, here we are…

   This is kind of a long story… taking place over the last 8 years.  I’ll try and keep it relatively concise, but I also kinda need the outlet.

   My wife and I always wanted a child, that was part of the plan when we got together.  We bought our house, with the extra room, in hopes that there’d be a child in that extra space.

   Over time, we realized the way to make that happen, was to adopt.  In January 2010, we attended what they call an adoption intake meeting and met Children’s Aid Society personnel and started going through the steps outlined by CAS.  Each step costs money, because of everyone signing off on us and the paperwork involved… the bank, the doctors, the police checks… everything costs money.  Fine.  No problem.   If that’s part of the process, cool, we’ll do it. 

   Then, my wife and I lost our jobs.  The same time, the same day.  As wacky as that sounds, it’s the truth. 

   I contacted our rep and Children’s Aid and explained that we needed to put this adoption process on hold.  We can’t really bring a child into our house with both of us out of work.  So, our file was put on hold until we were able to get our employment situation stabilized.  

   Four months later, we both had new jobs.  I contacted CAS again, and told them the good news.  They reopened our file and we got back into the adoption process. 

   Then my wife got pregnant!  Well, we chatted with our rep again at CAS, it was recommended that we put the adoption process on hold again.  Sadly, that pregnancy ended up in another miscarriage.   I contacted our CAS rep again, to get things rolling again.  Our Children’s Aid representative replied exactly:

   I am so sorry to hear that your wife had a miscarriage and you have my sympathies.  Please take all the time you need and don’t worry about having your file closed.   It really sounds like you have been through a lot lately and understandably need some time.  I will wait to hear from you keeping in mind that you want to complete your probation period and needing time to heal.

   I called her on the phone and asked her if this was the best course of action.  She explained with us losing our jobs, and the miscarriage in a relatively short period of time, we really needed to take time and properly heal before bringing a child into our home.   Ok, that kinda made sense.   Enough with the on again, off again as far as our file was concerned. 

  

   So, after we stabilized our jobs, and healed as best we could, I reached out again to our CAS rep.  Once again, let’s get back on track and really focus on getting this adoption done!

   Our rep replied that our file was closed and we’d have to start all over from the beginning!   Losing any paperwork, money spent and momentum.  Everything gone and having to start all over from scratch.

   To this day, I still haven’t gotten over the fact that our rep, in writing, told us to take a break, take time to heal, and not to worry about having the file closed and then did exactly that, closing our file!   It was their idea to take a break, and then they close the file on us?  Not cool. 

   My wife and I were just really emotionally spent.  Most people wouldn’t understand the emotions we went through during that process.  On again, off again.  Back and forth.   At the time, it was the most emotionally draining time in my life.  We decided, maybe it just ‘wasn’t meant to be’.

   ...and that's where I'll stop the therapeutic note of... let's call this Emotional Pain Part #1 ... to be continued...  

#torontoCAS

PainPals unite?! (part 2 / update)

   Well, last post was regarding some physical pain and the upcoming surgery.  2 weeks before my scheduled surgery, my family doctor asked my if any of these 12 doctors/specialists prescribed a drug called "Gabapentin".  I said no.  She said I might as well try it since surgery is the next thing on the horizon.

  This Gabapentin seems to reduce the pain and frequency by about one-third.  33% relief?  I'll take it.  I still have episodes where the pain gets a little crazy and I limp around like 'Frankenstein's monster'; but less often.  I'll manage for now.

   

PainPals unite?!

Wow.  Almost 3 years since I was last here...  Time to turn the lights on and have a look around here...

Last time here, I wished for less death and illness among for family and friends.  Well, that didn't really happen.  That's the part of growing older that sucks.  You just never know where and when someone's time on this earth is up.  So, you gotta live accordingly, right?  Take less stuff for granted, and appreciate what you've got while you've got it.  That includes friends, family and your health.

I guess the thought of 'time's up' has been on my mind lately.  A lot.

I've lost track of all my hospital appointments.  For 16 years now, I'm just told to be at this hospital or that hospital for whatever date and I go.

It's not something I talk about much.  Probably because it's embarrassing.  Although I grew up in a very loving family, we just didn't talk about personal stuff like health issues.

For the last 16 years, I've dealt with no less than 12 different doctors and had one surgery, with another surgery coming up.

Apparently there isn't a specific name for what I've got, other than 'chronic testicular pain'.

A few times every day, I get the feeling that I've been kicked between the legs.  Ya, you read that right.

Sometimes these pain attacks last 30 seconds, sometimes 3 hours or more.  No drug even touches that pain.  I just have to ride it out.

But now, these attacks are happening more frequently and with longer duration.  So much so that it's effecting my quality of life. 

Doctor #12 says "1 in 25 males have this".  I actually replied "bullshit"!.  If that was the case, I'd see other guys in my circle of family and friends walking around like me trying to hide the 'Frankenstein's monster'   limp that this pain can cause.

Some of my friends know because I've had to tell them.  It gets hard hiding that pain face, or the awkward walk when I have one of these attacks.  So, I end up having to explain myself.  Which gets to be embarrassing.  Still not really comfortable about talking about Dr.Tugnut or Dr.Needleballs.  It's just something I don't want to talk about.  Maybe that's the problem?  No one is talking about their often debilitating pain.   Just try and hide it.  Grin and bare it.   Soldier through it.

The next surgery is to remove nerves on the left side, which might help.  The doctor says 75% chance of successfully stopping the pain.  I'm taking that chance.  I can deal with the 'numbnuts' jokes.  Just take away this $#%*ing pain.

This is just my outlet in my little corner of the interweb. I guess you really never know what's going on behind the scenes with someone.   Doesn't really feeling better talking/writing about what my wife and I call "Lefty"; but maybe someone else has a similar pain.  Let's discuss!   We can be PainPals!

I see society starting to have a shift.  People talking about mental illness much more openly.  That's cool.  People need to know what others are going through.  Maybe this is similar?  I had that thought when the doctor was telling me how frequent this is in men.  Then why the heck is no one talking?

So, if you see me walking 'funny' or with a bit of a grimace that looks like I'm in pain... now you know, it's just "Lefty" acting up.  Maybe, by the time I see you, I'll have had the surgery, it'll be a success and I can just delete this post... 😃

2015, you kinda sucked.

2015.  Let's be honest, you kinda sucked.

 In the first week, we had Uncle Harold's funeral.  That was closely followed by Aunt Win's, and Cousin Tom.  Wasn't a stellar start by anyone's standard.   Then, it was sad to say goodbye to one of our karaoke pals, Karen. Lastly, but effecting me most, my father's months of hospitalization and eventual passing.
  I'm writing this, to try and remind myself it wasn't all bad.  So much of it hurt, and still does.  I found myself changing.  My default went from a happy guy with sad moments; to a sad guy with happy moments.  Don't really like that.  Just have to keep reminding myself, that I'm surrounded by my wife, family and the most amazing circle of friends I could ask for.
   I recently heard Rick Springfield say that nothing is all good or all bad. It's both.  Sounds simplistic enough, but I'd never heard that before.

   So, here is me focusing on some of the cool things about 2015.

 - Leona's sister, twice & Jack Russell three times!
 - My wife and friends threw a fun 50th birthday for me where I actually played my harmonica while Carla sang!
- Surprise birthday party in a hotel outside of Chicago with Jack & Heather Russell, Robby Lochner, Tony Montana, Dicki Fliszar and Chris Tristram and a dozen or so of the rocking-est friends from the Pirates Page!
 - Vegas vacation with my wife and her family, and seeing my cousin Tina for the first time in over 25 years!
 - M3 Festival with 'road warriors' Marysia, Dave & Kim!
 - Family Fireworks!
 - Weird Al concert, complete with backstage meet & greet & photos. Loved buying Jim & Steve's music directly from them!
 - Other truly awesome and entertaining music concerts like...Beth Hart, Rick Springfield, Van Halen, Killer Dwarfs & Headstones!
 - Little Piece of Heaven Weekend with some of the best people I know!
 - I'm going to add my nephew Jeremy & my 'oddson' Nicholas to this list, as watching them grow into amazing kids is incredibly uplifting. Their parents are an inspiration!


  Of course I don't really know what 2016 will bring.  No ones does.  I guess I'm just hoping for less illness and death.  I'll take care of the positiveness.  I've got another M3 festival on tap, and I've got to help plan my mother-in-laws 90th birthday and my 10th wedding anniversary. That's positive.   ... and drop the mic right here...

Success at 50?

   So, today I turn 50.  Cool.  Feeling good.  In relatively good health.  I’ve surrounded myself with the most amazing group of friends & family I could ever imagine.  To me, they're truly cool and gifted people, from all different walks of life.   Authors, Chefs, Musicians, Educators, Drivers, Artists, Doctors, Nurses, Retirees, Sales Reps, Small Business Owners, Photographers, Ex-girlfriends, Childhood friends, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Nieces, Nephews, Actors, Managers, Co-Workers, to name a few examples …and even Facebook acquaintances from all over the world with something similar or compatible with me to keep life interesting and enrich my life.  People I love having in my circle of family & friends.  

  Growing up, I knew early on my focus was not going to be on a specific career path.  I’d learn skills of interest to me and apply them as I moved forward and evolved as a person.   Somehow I knew at an early age, for me personally, my focus would be elsewhere.  I wouldn’t be measuring my personal success against a specific line of work or income.  To me success would be something else completely. 

   Within the first year of leaving high school.  I’d introduced 2 separate sets of close friends that got   married (and still are to this day).  I thought that was pretty cool being the match-maker; I could do it for them, so I could do it for me.  But then years and years went by and I was still officially single.  The brief thought of ‘why wasn’t I married?’ had to leave my mind as quickly as it entered.  I had to realize pretty quickly that it’s different for everyone.  My father at 35 years of age, had a long-term/stable career and 6 kids; but that didn’t mean that was going to be me.  Growing up, most of us are taught, somewhere between parental guidance and peer pressure that; you go to school, when that’s done, you get a job, when that’s stable, you get a life partner, a place to live, maybe have kids, maybe not, and live happily-ish ever after.   In ‘the greatest generation’, that’s how we were brought up.

   Well, that sure ain’t set in stone!  Most of the people in my circle know that now, through their various and very personal life experiences.   To me, success was not going to be defined by the terms of my surroundings or even by society.  No, I would do that for myself.  

  Success to me, is to be happily employed.  Hold a decent job, for a decent wage, keep a good work ethic and leave most days with a certain level of ‘job satisfaction’, that I made a difference in that workday.    

   Success to me would also mean, I needed to have good relationships with my parents and siblings.  Not perfect, it rarely is, but good & civil.  My family is awesome and we get through what comes our collective way.  It's not always easy, but ya do it.   

  I also needed to surround myself with quality fun people with like-minded interests and values.  I’ve got the nuttiest wackiest group of friends, and I love ‘em!  They’re such a huge part of my life. 

   Most important of all, to me, success would mean a happy home life.   At the end of the day, a place to live and a partner to share my life with.  It's that simple.  My wife doesn't define me, she compliments me.  She still has her life with her friends, and I still have my life with my friends, and then we have our life with our friends.  It's really cool and it works. 

   So, reflecting on 50.  I haven't massed monetary wealth, but I'm perfectly ok with that.  My wealth, and yes to me it is wealth, is my circle of family, my wife and my friends.  They rock!  Amazing people that help and encourage me on this wild ride of life experiences.  Moving forward through life’s ongoing challenges (and ya gotta keep moving forward).  I'm lucky and blessed to have them in my life; and THAT makes me feel damn successful! 

Why I'm voting for both Doug & Rob Ford

   Politics.  One of the most personal topics one could chat about. (the other that comes to mind is religion, but that's not for today)  People are not going to agree with you 100% on your beliefs.  Everyone's got their opinion of what their particular beliefs means to them.  I enjoy debate and conversation.  I've got friends that have very different opinions regarding politics.  Often very opposing, but it can still be discussed with respect and at the end of the discussion we're still friends.  In this, my little corner of the interweb, I'm going to chat briefly about politics. 

   We've got a pretty big political race going on right now in my city.  Toronto.  I've lived here for most of my life and have seen Mayors & Councillors come and go.  I've really liked some, and really disliked others.  Not everyone's going to be happy with an election outcome; but we've have a democratic process in place and I'm thankful for that. 

   I'm a big Rob & Doug Ford supporter, and I'll tell you why.

   Before he was my Mayor, Rob Ford was my Councillor here in Ward#2.  If I called the city of Toronto regarding a city issue.  I couldn't get anyone to return my calls.  Not once.  So, I went to my Councillor at the time Rob Ford, and he answered me the same day?!  Huge points for that.  I've never experienced a politician like that, ever.  I had a property issue that the city of Toronto was supposed to deal with but wouldn't.  The day after he contacted me, Rob Ford had three different city departments meet with him and myself on my front lawn and told them to fix my issue and that he'd be back to check.  The city crews worked together and fixed my property issue that week, and on the weekend Rob Ford came back to my home to verify the work was done and it was done to my satisfaction.  It was, and I thanked him for his service.  After that, I decided to go to a few community planning meetings and Rob was always there.   The guys truly cares.  He was really involved with my community and that in turn got me interested more in my own community.   When you meet him, one of the first things he does is give you his phone number and tells you to call him if you need anything city related ; and he means it. 

   Then he ran for Mayor, and I knew from my experience as him as my Councillor, he's exactly the kind of politician I'd want as my Mayor.  I wanted someone who will be there when I needed them and I knew I had that with Rob Ford.  Besides that; I agreed with his ideas for my city.  I was quite excited when he won for Mayor; but that excitement was rather short lived as he had a city council that had many council members that promised to work against him, regardless of the issue, from his very first day as Mayor. Disagreeing with anything he said by default.  Just to be contradictory.   Hard to move forward with a city council like that.

 

  Then came a few personal problems.  I'm not blind to them.  I just don't care.  Simple as that.  When people say 'he's embarrassing the city of Toronto', I completely disagree.  He may be embarrassing himself from time to time, but he's sure not embarrassing me, or anyone else in my city.  I don't condone some of the things he's done in his private life.  But those are his issues and he'll figure them out in his own way, in his own time.  I'm not judging him.  I won't.  I just know that as long as he returns my calls to help me with city business he's got my support.  I'm a pretty loyal guy and I don't abandon someone just because they have problems.  

  Now, he's got his health issues.  So, he had to drop out of the Mayor's race; but maybe I'll be lucky enough to have him back as Councillor!   His brother Doug is now running for Mayor.  

   I actually have the same respect for Doug as I do Rob. That's because I had the exact same experience with Doug as I did with Rob.  When Rob became Mayor, his brother Doug became my Councillor here in Ward#2.  I had the same issue with city property, I called Doug, the next day he met with a crew at my home, got the issue fixed, came back and met with me to ensure the job was done to my satisfaction.  So, I know from personal experience that both Rob & Doug make the time for those that need them; and that's HUGE with me.  I've lived in Mississauga, Brampton and Quebec City in my adult life, and this level of service was unheard of by me.  Besides, I like the fiscal accountability that they're known for and  I LOVE the transit plan!  

   

   I just don't share the same ideas and values as the other candidates running for Mayor of my city.  In most of their platform ideas, I feel strongly opposed to.  So, because of the level of personal service I've received from both Rob & Doug Ford, and I know how much they care about community, they've both got my vote!  I actually feel lucky that I'm in a position to be able to support and vote for both of them!  

 https://www.facebook.com/dougfordcampaign

Crazy Concert Memories

Crazy:  Defined in so may ways...
 

1. mentally deranged; demented; insane.

2. senseless; impractical; totally unsound:

3. intensely enthusiastic; passionately excited:

4. very enamored or infatuated (usually followed by about):

5. intensely anxious or eager; impatient:

6. unusual; bizarre; singular:

7. wonderful; excellent; perfect:

So with those definitions in mind; wow.  Can't just pick one.   

More than a few come to mind, some crazier than others.  Sometimes it’s just stupidity.  Other times it’s being blown away by talent.  I love being entertained. That’s why I’m there in the first place; for that entertaining experience.  And it’s doesn’t always have to be the big production or spectacle. Entertain me the way you see fit.

October 1987: Heart, Bad Animals tour.  Some guy in a wheelchair, was into the concert so much that he forgot he was in the wheelchair, stood up, walked around a bit cheering for the encore.  Oh ya, that was me.  I bought 4 tickets stapled together from a scalper and didn’t check the tickets closely enough.  Come the day of the show, the last ticket actually said “Wheelchair Location”. Not wanting to miss the show, I borrowed my grandfather’s wheelchair and went to the concert with my buddies in that wheelchair.

June 1988: Def Leppard Hysteria Tour.  The crazy thing about this show, was just how blown away me, the two women I was with, and everyone else at the show; at the pure talent of Rick Allen.  This was his first appearance in Toronto after the car crash that took his left arm (and the last Toronto visit for guitarist Steve Clark before he died)   Rick was drumming better with only one arm than many drummers I’ve seen with the use of both arms.  Incredible and inspirational.  That show remains one of the coolest rock experiences I’ve ever had.

July 1988: I saw Whitesnake (and first time seeing my favourite band Great White as they opened up) and as David Coverdale was singing 'Crying In The Rain'. It actually rained.  Only during that song. Coverdale took full advantage of this and said "How's that for special effects Toronto!"

Same concert…. The CNE Grandstand always had long line up for the bathrooms.  This night the lineups were longer than the usually crazy lineups. Maybe more beverages consumed that night?  Maybe.  But the guys line up was so long, the more impatient male concert goers, also lined up at the sinks to pee.  Nasty! 

December 1989: Rolling Stones ‘Steel Wheels’ show in Toronto.  My buddy and I were lined up outside on that cold December night.  Waiting for the doors to open into Skydome.  The guy in front of us was complaining loudly about how cold it was.  He seemed dressed for it, with his long ‘outback’ style coat.  Finally he had enough.  He stepped out of line, walked over the glass doors, and ‘kung-fu-ed’ his way in.  Literally punched through the glass door and walked in.  Security immediately surrounded him, then they saw who it was, and instead of arresting him they all got out their little black books for an autograph.  It was Kung-Fu actor David Carradine.

August 1991:  Judas Priest concert was just beginning.  ‘Hell Bent For Leather’ was the opening track.   The band comes out and starts playing.  K.K. Downing on one side, and Glen Tipton on the other.  Scott Travis on the drum set elevated up at the back of the stage.  A few bars into the song, a drawbridge style door opens underneath the drummer; and vocalist Rob Halford screams out on his motorcycle.  The problem was, he seemed to be going too fast.  On the way out he hit is head off the top of the door.  Knocked him off the bike and out cold.  Tipton and Downing walk in front of him and continue playing a complete instrumental version of ‘Hell Bent For Leather’ while the medics attend to Mr. Halford.  Turns out he’s got a broken nose.  Went on to finish the concert.  Word on the street was that after the concert Halford went to the hospital to get his nose set, and didn’t rejoin the band.  The events that followed…. Halford leaving the band, and being replaced by Tim ‘Ripper’ Owens (who was in a Judas Priest cover band at the time) was the inspiration for the 2001 Mark Wahlberg & Jennifer Aniston movie “Rockstar”.   Rob Halford came back to Judas Priest in 2003.

November 1992:  Ian Anderson of Jethro Tull has to stop the concert at Massey Hall, because some loogan through a bottle of rum onstage and it bounced off his head and stopped the show.  Who throws glass bottles at the performers?  It wasn’t even empty.  Ouch!  If you don’t like the show, leave, don’t ruin it for the rest of us.  Crazy-ass-bottle-throwing-bitch! 

December 1993: Q107 Music Awards Show. There was a long bar separating the concert crowd with the celebrities and musicians taking part.  Sebastian Bach was called up for an award.  He was at the back of the place sitting with Kim Mitchell.  When called up, he jumped on the bar, walked all the way along the bar purposely kicking off everyone’s drinks in the process; then hopped up onto the stage.  So you’ve now got broken glass and assorted beverages sprayed around the crowd.  Love his voice, but the guy can be a dick!  

Sebastian Bach & Kim Mitchell at a Toronto music awards show.

Same show: Watching Junkhouse’s Tom Wilson playing “Going Out Of My Head’ and rocking out to this great tune.  The problem was that his hair was so long and shaggy he couldn’t see.  So, he’s ‘head-banging’ as he’s walking around playing guitar.  The dude walked right off the stage!

July 2003:  A festival concert headlining the Rolling Stones, which guested AC/DC, RUSH, The Guess Who and …Justin Timberlake?  Not a good fit for the rock & roll crowd.  He got booed, which I sort of expected.  Just a bad mix for that crowd.  What I didn’t expect is the water bottles being thrown at him.  Some of them were actually pee from concert goers that didn’t’ want to make the trek to all the way to the bathroom. Throwing bottles of pee. Who does that?  In this YouTube video you can see the bottles flying a few times though his performance.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W21e9xQyVjg

Twice, I’ve had Myles Goodwyn from April Wine stop a concert because he caught me taking his picture.  Didn’t resume playing until I put my camera way.  Dude, it’s just a photo.

'Dude, I'm not playing another note until you put that camera away'.

 Chad Smith (Red Hot Chili Peppers & Chickenfoot).  The guy is just nuts.  Incredibly entertaining, but if any of you have ever seen him live, you know how crazy he is on stage.

Yep, he's drilling the side of his head.

Ya, he's standing on his drums threatening to pee.

 Love the hijinks of some artists and band that truly make the concert a spectacle.  It’s not always necessary, but it can be entertaining.  David Lee Roth comes to mind when he set up the boxing ring set out in the crowd, or his flying surfboard or his gargoyles that peed booze or ice tea (depending on the reports) on the crowd.  I wasn’t close enough to get sprayed so I can’t say exactly what it was.

David Lee Roth with his flying surfboard and boxing ring in the background.

Gil Moore from Triumph driving around the around the stage while playing his car-like drumset back in 1988.  Gene Simmons breathing fire and Paul Stanley Zip-lining over our heads.

Paul Stanley Zip-lining over the crowd.

Good times.  No, amazing times.

I'm sure after I post this, more will come to mind.  The live concert experience has been a part of my life since the 80's.  I don't do it as often as I did then.  Back then, concert tickets were between $25 and $40 and I went all the time.  Not the hundreds of dollars it is now.  Damn the Eagles.  (with their "Hell Freezes Over" tour, they started with the crazy tickets prices.  And if they could do it....most other bands followed suit.)  I've seen more shows then I could ever count.  It's a true passion. And with hundreds of shows seen, there's bound to be some craziness or wackiness along the way.   But I'm ok with that, to paraphrase the late Kurt Cobain... Here I am, now entertain me.